Like I said in my last post, Independence, it’s easy for those of us who have been a little thick to *heavily* criticize ourselves. I was scrolling through Facebook a few weeks ago, and something a friend liked stood out to me. It was this amazingly fit, gorgeous woman lamenting over a common issue among those of us striving to be stronger, healthier versions of ourselves. She said:
"My body does not look like all the other… female athletes with crazy ripped abs and zero body fat on their stomachs. I wish I could look like that, but I've come to the realization that this is my body. I work my ass off in training every day. I eat clean for the most part, but am human and love to indulge in dessert every now and then. I'm in the best shape of my life and still don't have a six-pack. Not even close to a 4 lol. Some of it is genetics and the other part is I could eat fewer calories to try to look like everyone else. But the bottom line is I need to eat to perform. I can't worry about trying to look like a "Games" athlete because having a six pack doesn't always make for the best athlete. So for anyone who thinks they need to look a certain way to be a Regionals or Games competitor, you don't. Stay on the grind and keep doing you!" —Jamie Hagiya - CrossFit Athlete
I don't know about you, but it seems like we all have something we think is holding us back. I mean, Alessia Cara put out a song called "Scars to your Beautiful" and an incredibly moving music video about it (check out the video, I'm not kidding - it's incredible!)! We ALL feel some way about something on our bodies. It's completely normal, and if we all have something we want different, we all have that in common.
For some, it's the muscle formation on their bodies; for others, it's simply the constant feeling of being winded or tired. For me, I've had a rough time with accountability. I was reading an article of all the things that make someone successful in this whole journey, and one of the points really made me think:
Recruit someone who will hold you accountable
"Accountabili-buddies"! Duh! No wonder I'm dying on the vine here. I haven't recently had anyone in my life who has encouraged me by offering to join me. It made sense why I've been so lazy lately. My significant other doesn't find general fitness or eating right a current priority in his life. That's not a problem, but what I need to remember is that there are others who do. The article I read just this morning goes on to say that "an accountability buddy doesn't necessarily need to be a workout buddy, but they do need to be someone you can talk to when you're feeling unmotivated and who can remind you of your original goal"... Ding ding ding! Light bulb! Of course! That's when I was carefully measuring my portions and meal-prepping, and my consistency at the gym. Right now, I get so preoccupied at work with my tasks and the stress, I don't even take advantage of the gym across the hallway from my office as the most simple form of stress-relief.
My point is, motivation is hard to come by, even for me. Don't get discouraged with your figure or lack of progress simply because you don't look the way you want to just yet. Even Jamie Hagiya, doesn't look like the 'typical' cross-fitter.
It's hard as hell to keep going forward. You have to remember that as you trudge on - Remember how far it is that you've come.
Don't quit now, just to have come this far.