I find it funny, that as I head into my office every day, something always seems to correlate between my personal life and what’s happening in the Athletic department at work. Lately, I’ve had a lot of reflection about my personal life, and it’s hard not to feel down on myself for mistakes that I’ve made. I was actually noted as having such strong guilt about things that were not even particularly my fault, but I assume it and own it. Call me negative or pessimistic, but I find a lot of fault in the things that I do or say and try desperately to stop myself when that 'Anxiety Train' gets rolling. I feel like sometimes I’m too preoccupied with maintaining my own idea of “perfect” and it messes up what is truly to be pure intentions.
Earlier today, while discussing an e-mail I sent without the proper attachment, my boss brushed it off and told me not to worry about it. That’s a difficult thing for my type of personality to actually do. “Me – let something stupid I did go? But people will be mad/angry/upset if I didn’t get it right…” Tell the inner critic to. Shut. Up! The only person punishing you is you. Humans make mistakes! All the time – not a single person in this world is perfect, and anyone who tells you different is lying to you and most certainly themselves.
Same goes for when you’re making progress towards a weight goal you’ve made, or trying to be a healthier, more fit version of yourself. The sheer fact that you’re doing it and are making a mistake means you’re trying; it means you’re doing something about a problem in trying to solve it. The only thing a mistake does is teach you how NOT to do something the next time. It’s not about punishing yourself or feeling slighted/embarrassed/insert negative emotion here; it’s about seeing that it isn’t the best outcome possible, and being motivated to change it. The only thing that should come from adversity or challenges is you trying to get better. Personal growth is the key – making yourself the best version of you, and understanding that all things in this life and all situations are lessons to teach you.
Other people’s opinions about your character or attempt to better yourself based on a mistake you’ve made (even if they’re multiple mistakes) shouldn’t bear any weight on how you see yourself. Those people are committed to misunderstanding you, and frankly, they don’t belong in your life if they continuously judge you for your slip-ups. Your blunder does not define you – your gracious ability to see it as a mistake, learning from it, and striving to do better is what defines you and your character; how much effort you put into making it right is what shows who you are.
Rise above the rest.
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